Child Brides Are On The Rise In The U.S. And We Might Be Encouraging It

Last year, a report by Unchained At Last discovered that more than 200,000 children were married in the US over the last 15 years.

After the turn of the century, you’d think that number should be close to zero. Unfortunately, boys and girls as young as 10 years old have been wed to individuals more than twice their age.

Many Americans are under the impression that child brides are only popular in polygamous communities, but it’s actually happening all over the US, and in all sorts of families.

While the minimum age to get married in the U.S. is 18, there are some states that have legal exemptions. According to The Conversation, as of December 2017 “minors of any age can legally marry in 25 states if they meet their state’s exceptions.”

These state laws allow minors to get married if they have parental consent, the approval of a judge, or are recognized as adults.

This byproduct of poverty is sweeping the nation, and not much is being done to prevent this old-age tradition.

While states like New York and Florida have stepped up and banned children under the age of 17 from marrying, many people argue that it’s time to ban child marriage altogether.

Missouri, in particular, is receiving a lot of backlash online. Their laws are encouraging teen brides to travel from across the country, and the reason behind why they’re doing this will shock you.

The Tragic Love Story Desi And Lucy Hid From Their Fans

For 40 million viewers across America, Lucille Ball and Desi Arnaz were the perfect image of a happily married couple.

Even decades later, reruns of the show feature the kind of love that still inspires women to search for “their Desi.”

But you can’t believe everything you see on TV.

It’s true that Ball and Arnaz shared a bond that impressed their friends and family, but their life at home wasn’t as cheery as it looked on I Love Lucy.

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Desi and Lucy were never a typical couple, but they seemed downright mismatched when they met on the set of the movie Too Many Girls in 1940.

She was 28, and a b-actress at the beginning of her movie career.

He was 23, a Cuban-American bandleader, and – as Lucy admits – not her type.

But the couple fell head over heels in love with each other, and started a whirlwind romance.

Arnaz was actually engaged to another woman when he met Lucy, but just six months later the couple were married.

One of I Love Lucy‘s directors remembered the pair as “the kind of marriage that has failure written all over it,” and their relationship definitely had a rocky start.

Early in their marriage, Ball struggled to keep Arnaz happy, as his hectic schedule sent him on tours across America.

“Lucy always wanted to please him,” a friend of Lucy’s told Closer.

“If he wanted something, she would get it for him. If they were seated and he needed more room, she would slide over. I found it surprising because she was such a strong, independent lady, but when it came to Desi, she was very old-fashioned.”

By 1944, the marriage was already on the rocks. The couple even briefly separated after Ball filed for divorce, on account of Arnaz’s drinking and womanizing.

But the birth of their first child, Lucie, seemed to calm Arnaz down, and gave him a reason to stay close to home.

Soon, Ball would have an even better reason: their own TV show.

When Is It Okay To Date Again After The Death Of A Spouse?

When your significant other passes away, is there an appropriate time to start dating again?

For 32-year-old widower Jake Coates, it only took eight months for him to find love again.

Jake lost his beloved wife Emmy to thyroid cancer last June, but shared on social media he’s now in a relationship with his girlfriend, Jenna Elsby.

While plenty of Instagram users wrote their support for Jake’s newfound relationship, others believe it’s too soon for him for him to be dating again.

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One of these people is Emmy’s sister, Sophie Collet, who said her late sister would be devastated.

“Not only am I at a loss for words at the insensitivity of it, but I also am trying to maintain some dignity for Emmy, us as her family and her friends and all those whose lives she touched,” Sophie wrote.

“I can assure you this would break her heart and leave her devastated as it has so many of us,” she continued, adding people should be considerate in regards to flaunting a new relationship.  

The couple made headlines last year after they raised £140,000 ($195,000 US) for The Royal Marsden Cancer Charity.

From personal experience, I know this isn’t the first time a new relationship has sparked controversy on whether it’s too soon to find love again.

Debunking The 5 Most Common Myths About What Sex Is Like After 50

Sex is obviously going to be a lot different whether you are 20 or 60, but that doesn’t mean it will be bad. There is a long list of myths people like to believe about what sex is like after the age of 50, most of them are not true at all. Sex is going to be different for everyone but that doesn’t mean all 50+ people have boring sex lives. Just because you aren’t as young as you used to be, doesn’t mean your sex life is non-existent.

Here are five debunked myths about sex after 50:

This differs for everyone, but for the most part the frequency of sex doesn’t change doesn’t change just because you’re get older. You are likely to have the same amount of sex you did 20 years earlier. If anything, you can have sex even more once the kids are moved out!

People often have the idea that once you hit 50, you have a boring and basic sex life. This isn’t true, your sex life can be even more adventurous now then when you were 20, if you want it to be. People often say that by the age of 50 or over, they are ready for a change and begin to try more adventurous things in bed.

This one is also false. Many women actually find increased sexual pleasure after menopause, including more frequent or more intense orgasms. We knew there had to be one upside to menopause! Not only women, but both sexes report that sex gets better as they get older because they know how to do it, and feel much more confident to ask for what they want.

Menopause can actual make for really good sex and here’s why:

8 Ways Being Married Can Affect Your Long-Term Health

Sometimes we might think that marriage is going to make us die younger, but it’s actually the opposite, a number of studies show. Of course it matters who you’re married to, but any healthy marriage has a long list of health benefits and after reading them, you’ll want to go and kiss your spouse for how healthy they are making you.

People that are married have an all around healthier heart. Many studies have shown that by being married you will have lower blood pressure.

Also if by chance you do have a heart attack or stroke, there will be someone there to call an ambulance for you. And you will have a healthier recovery after you get home, because there will be someone looking after you with your best interests.  

Being married can alter your hormones in a way which affects stress. Men’s testosterone levels were found to drop, making them less headstrong, and cortisol levels dropped in both sexes. Cortisol is a hormones that is a health enemy. It increases stress, makes you gain weight and raises blood pressure. When your cortisol levels are lowered all of these risks are lowered.

Most people won’t believe this one because it is usually thought that if you’re married, your sex life will probably suck, but this isn’t true.

The National Health and Social Life Survey found that 51% of married couples reported they were “extremely satisfied” with their sex life, compared to 39% of people who were cohabiting and 36% of singles.

This is usually more true for women, but many people have stated that sleeping with their spouse makes them sleep better. Marriage can be good for your sleep if it’s a happy one but, being in an unhappy marriage can be a risk factor for sleep disturbance. If you’re not sleeping, you’re more irritable, have lower frustration and tolerance levels, so it’s possible that it could affect the marriage.

Like mentioned in number 1, there is a much higher recovery rate after getting out of the hospital or even a major surgery, for those who are married. Having someone to support you and care for you when you are recovering makes the process that much easier.

A researcher from University of Rochester found that happily married patients who undergo major surgery are more than three times as likely to still be alive 15 years later when compared to people who are not married.

This next one makes me feel a lot better!

The Violent Marriage Of Humphrey Bogart Would Put Hollywood To Shame Today

Nowadays, we are hearing the uncensored truth behind some of the most horrifying stories among the celebrity elite, and it is truly shocking to behold.

With stories of abuse, rampant alcoholism, and violent tempers, many people will want to hearken back to the better times when everything seemed to be innocent and carefree.

Unfortunately, if you lived through the previous decades, you know how wrong those young people are.

Even some of the biggest names in Hollywood had their dark secrets, and there is no better example of this than the tumultuous marriage of movie stars Humphrey Bogart and Mayo Methot, otherwise known (fittingly) as “The Battling Bogarts.”

These high-profile celebrities were married in August, 1938 after a brief courtship, and while they were seen as the Hollywood couple, it was more for their heavy drinking and violent outbursts rather than any fairy tale romance.

But let’s not jump the gun – that was Humphrey’s job!

7 Proposals We Saw In Movies That Never Fail To Make Us Sob

These are the top seven wedding proposals you will ever see in a movie. Even though they are far from realistic, they are all perfect.

1. Stepmom

This heartfelt speech Luke gives Isabel is the sweetest thing ever. He wakes her up and gives her a ring box, inside is a spool of thread, he then beautifully explains why he loves her then slides a ring from the thread onto her finger. Also it was full of metaphors to do with the thread, and overall a beautiful proposal.

2. Walk the Line

In this scene, Johnny proposes to June on stage after singing a duet. In the middle of the duet Johnny stops signing, apologizes to the audience by saying, “Sorry everyone, I just have to ask June a question before we finish this song.” June looks confused and he asks her to marry him. She tries to brush it off and he continues to tell her how much he loves her. Through her tears, she says yes and they kiss as the audience cheers them on. I don’t know what is it is about this scene but it makes my eyes water every single time.

3. The Notebook

In this scene, Noah tells Aly that it won’t be easy but he wants her. He doesn’t necessarily propose to her but he tells her he wants to be with her forever, so we can only assume. This scene takes the cake of being one of the most heart-wrenching scenes in the entire movie, and it still hurts watching it after the 100th time.

‘Price Is Right’ Host Drew Carey Is Getting Married

Drew Carey, come on down…the aisle.

Yes, the game show host stunned fans when he announced that he’ll be tying the knot with his girlfriend, Dr. Amie Harwick.

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Carey, 59, met Harwick, 39, at a house part last summer, according to TMZ. Harwick is a licensed marriage and family therapist, with a pair of degrees in psychology and clinical psychology. She also wrote the book, The New Sex Bible For Women.

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While the TV host and his new fiance have only known each other for a short time, it’s obvious that Carey is head-over-heels in love with Harwick.

On his Instragram account, Carey shared a photo of him and his future bride, with the sweet caption, “Face of a lottery winner.”

This will be the first time Carey, a notable bachelor, has walked down the aisle. But it isn’t his first engagement.

Carey walked away from another engagement in 2012, but has revealed that the relationship is still an important part of his life.

Gordon Ramsay Says He Lost Over 50 Pounds To Save His Marriage

Gordon Ramsay has a very personal reason for his weight loss and he is sharing what inspired him into transforming his body.

The 51-year-old celebrity chef came clean in an interview with The Times about his weight loss journey.

Ramsay and his wife, Tana, have been married for 12-years and have four children together.  They share a 19-year-old daughter Megan, 18-year-old twins Holly and Jack, and a 16-year-old daughter Matilda.

But according to the Hell’s Kitchen host his weight was putting both his marriage and family in jeopardy.

Teen With Terminal Cancer One Last Wish Is To Marry His High School Sweetheart

The ways of the world don’t make sense when it comes to matters of death, but some people make sure to enjoy every last breath of life before they pass on.

A Florida teenager, just one day before his 18th birthday, was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer. However, life wasn’t going to end right there for Dustin Snyder, one of the happiest days of his life was yet to come.

Snyder wasn’t the only one to first think of the love of his life when he learned his days were numbered. Heather Mosher, from Connecticut, passed away from breast cancer only 18 hours after her wedding. Her story went viral when she and her fiance wedded early.

“It reminds me of someone who is crossing the finish line of a marathon or something,” David Mosher told WFSB. “Nobody thought she would’ve made it that far. She proved them all wrong and that’s what that photo says to me.”

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Synder also had a similar dying wish, that he and his high school sweetheart could be bonded even long after his death.

His wish came true on the weekend, and the love story between this couple is heartwrenching and inspiring.

Sharon Osbourne Wanted Ozzy To ‘Be Horribly Miserable’ For Cheating

Sharon Osbourne has revealed she wanted Ozzy to suffer for his cheating ways.

The scandal broke out in early 2016 when the rocker’s four-year affair was exposed with hairstylist Michelle Pugh, along with five other mistresses. They were separated for a brief period of time before they decided to reconcile and renew their vows.

Sharon has been Ozzy’s longtime business manager, taking over the role from her father when the musician was fired from Black Sabbath. The couple have three children together, Aimee, 34, Kelly, 33, and Jack, 32, while Ozzy has another three from his previous marriage to Thelma Riley.

For the past four decades, the Osbournes have been major attractions in the tabloid spotlight, with millions of people wondering what went on behind the scenes of the wild rock and roll family. They even starred in a reality show from 2002 to 2005, giving viewers a firsthand glance at all the family’s hijinks as if they were a fly on the wall.

With the pair’s affection towards each other apparent during every public appearance, their romance would be torn to pieces when Sharon (and the rest of the world) discovered Ozzy had strayed.

Now, Sharon has revealed how she really felt when she learned of her beloved husband’s infidelity.

The Real Reason Why People In Happy Relationships Cheat

We have always understood that the only reason people may cheat is due to the lack of happiness they receive out of their relationship. Many psychologists have come forward to explain that this really isn’t true.

Of course unhappiness is still a leading reason to why people cheat, but many people also cheat who are completely happy with their relationships.

“Not all affairs, as previously thought, are symptoms of a troubled relationship or a troubled person,” said Esther Perel, a psychotherapist and an expert on the topic of infidelity.

When people cheat and they don’t even know why, it’s usually because they are looking for a different version of themselves. That could be about a sense of longing, a sense of loss, either the loss of strength or the loss of certain parts of themselves.

Man With Alzheimer’s Disease Proposes To Wife Of 34 Years

A 68-year-old man who suffers from Alzheimer’s disease has proposed to his wife of 34 years after he had forgotten they were already married.

Michael Joyce and his wife, Linda, 64, renewed their vows on January 20 in front of all their family and friends. Linda said tying the knot for the second time was the “happiest day” of her life.

The pair were in bed when he woke his wife up in the middle of the night to ask her to be his bride.

“He looked me straight in the eyes and stuttered: ‘Will you marry me?’ Of course I will, darling,” Linda told Stuff.co.nz.

“You don’t say, oh, we’re already married. So, I said, of course I will, thinking he might not remember,” Linda said.

While Linda didn’t think Michael would remember the proposal, he surprised her the next day by asking her: “So, when are we doing this?”

With the possibility of it being the last chance for the couple to renew their vows, Linda put out a call for assistance on community website Neighbourly, where she was “blown away” by the responses she received. An overwhelming number of generous people offered to help organize the event – all for free.

7 Questions That You Should Ask Before Deciding To Say “I Do”

“Till death do us part,” it’s a pretty intense promise to make when you get married. Unfortunately, it’s not something that many people actually consider before they get up there in front of their friends and family and make the lifelong commitment to one person. Marriage doesn’t quite have the same seriousness attached to it as it used to. You can thank Hollywood for that, as we have watched celebrities get married and divorced every time the wind seems to shift.

When it comes to getting married, what you know about the person you are about to commit to isn’t the problem, it’s what you don’t know that can end up becoming a deal breaker. Communication is key both before and during marriage, and it’s time to start asking some tough questions before making the life-long commitment.

Here are 7 things you should definitely talk about before you decide to get married.

Contrary to popular belief, all people aren’t sexually compatible. There is no data on just how many marriages end because the sex is just that bad or infrequent, but it is safe to assume that uncompatible sex-lives has crushed its fair share of marriages. Before you get married, talk to your partner about what you want from a sex life, and get their feedback on what they want and expect. If you both expect to go in different directions, you just saved yourself a major head and heartache.

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Everyone has their own individual dreams and goals. Sure, people have goals for themselves as couples, but often times those can be outweighed by what they want on individual levels. Have a discussion about the future to see if you both see yourselves being able to do these things together. If one of you wants to travel the world, while the other wants to stay local and raise a family, maybe things aren’t going to work out.

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There are any number of cliched jokes surrounding in-laws. And for the most part, they are just that, jokes, but sometimes those jokes just aren’t funny because they hit way too close to reality. You might be marrying your spouse, but you’re also marrying into their family, whom they are likely quite loyal to.

If the in-laws are going to cause a lot of undue stress to your marriage, it’s time to find out early on. Ask you future spouse what they honestly think about your parents and ask them for an honest answer.

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It’s a very rare occurrence to meet someone these days that doesn’t have at least a little bit of personal debt. Often times that debt can be quite high, and when you marry someone you also marry their problems. So in order to avoid any feelings of resentment towards having to fix past problems that had nothing to do with you, talk about it beforehand.

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Lost Engagement Ring Returned In A Crazy Twist Of Fate

What could have been a living nightmare turned into a perfect sign of fate for a California man.

Three years ago, Nico Bellamy was given an engagement ring by the father of his current girlfriend, to give to her when they decided to get engaged. This ring had belonged to Bellamy’s girlfriend’s grandmother. Bellamy stored it in a deposit box to ensure it stayed safe, as well as hidden from his girlfriend, Caitie Schlisserman.

When the couple decided to move from West Hollywood to Silver Lake in July 2017, Bellamy retrieved the ring.

Bellamy stated that, he knew was going to propose for awhile so he thought it would be a good time to take the ring out.

He put the ring into a small plastic bag and then placed it back into its box and slid it into his backpack before the move.

Once they got to their new home, he placed his backpack on the ground of his living room and helped the movers bring their furniture inside the house for the rest of the day.

Just a few days after moving in, Bellamy realized he left the ring in his backpack, and went to go retrieve it.

“I went to go get it and noticed my backpack had been unzipped. When I dumped everything out and realized the ring wasn’t there, I ran to the bathroom and threw up immediately,” says Bellamy. “Not only was it this heirloom that was given to me by her dad to keep safe and I misplaced it, but her father was still recovering from his mother passing away just nine months earlier.”

Pope Francis Performs Wedding Ceremony On Plane For First Time In History

A couple’s wedding day is one of the most magical moments in their lifetime. It marks the end of one chapter, and reveals the promise and magic that a future full of shared memories has to offer.

For some, it happens at a church, or a local landmark that means something to them both. However, for two young partners flying over South America, it was a moment, and place, that neither of them would ever forget!

Two flight attendants found themselves in the history books after a spontaneous offer by Pope Francis became reality.

While Francis was flying between cities in Chile, he got to talking to the two attendants serving the passengers.

Paula Podest and Carlos Ciuffardi work together on the same airline, and have been in a civil union for years. They tried to marry back in 2010, but an earthquake disrupted their plans, and it seemed like they would never get around to having their special day.

When his Holiness found out about this, he knew there was no need for a miracle to give this couple what they needed.

There Was Actually A Scientific Study Into Why Someone Might Cheat On Their Spouse

Have you ever been cheated on during a long-term relationship? If you have, don’t worry there are more fish in the sea. But if you haven’t and you don’t think it will happen to you, it is actually more common than you think. A study showed that in over 1/3 of marriages, either one of of both parties admit to being unfaithful. But why does this happen so frequently? If you are happily married, or just happy together in a relationship, shouldn’t that be enough for you?

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Another study of 495 people (average age of 20) who had admitted to cheating at least once on a partner, wanted to know what had actually caused them to cheat. Simply put, they wanted to know the why, and the results gave us some rather concrete results.

Marriage Is Better When The Chores Are Equally Split Between Spouses

Is your husband helping you out with the chores at home? If he isn’t, it might be time to talk to him about the marital benefits of splitting the in-house workload. Results from a combined study between researchers from the University of Missouri, Brigham Young University, and Utah State University, were published in the Journal of Family Issues last month that prove that married couples are far happier when the household chores are split equally between both parties.

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It’s true, men aren’t necessarily raised to appreciate just how much work goes into keeping a house neat and tidy, especially when children are added to the equation. For decades (and dare I say centuries) chores around the house were considered “woman’s work,” and we are slowly starting to see that preconceived notion change.

The study by the three combined universities looked at heterosexual, married couples (mostly) between 25 and 30 years old, who had at least one child. Of all the couples included in the study, roughly forty per cent of the women involved had some form of employment.

A few stark conclusions came out of the study. One, when the woman of the relationship sees that her husband is doing his fare share of the household chores, the couple is much happier as a whole. Two, the couple also saw success when the woman in the relationship believed that the husband was close with the children. Three, when a couple does chores together, the woman is far happier with the division of responsibilities.

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This isn’t a new discovery either. In a 2007 Pew Research Poll, it was shown that one of the top three issues that surround making sure you have a happy marriage revolved around splitting up the household chores. The other two issues were faithfulness and whether the couple was having good sex. Funny enough, men were seen to benefit from having a more frequent sex life when they did more chores, but only if those chores were considered traditional “man tasks” like yard work or “fixing the sink.”

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There are some helpful tips to getting your husband involved with more of the traditional “female” household duties.

Hugh Jackman Reveals How He Keeps His Marriage Strong After 21 Years

It’s hard to believe that true love exists in Hollywood when break-ups happen more than marriages.

But despite all the relationship drama we read about in the tabloids, there are a number of couples whose relationships have gone the distance. One such pairing is actor Hugh Jackman and his wife of more than two decades, actress Deborra-Lee Furness.

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Jackman and Furness’s love story started all the way back in 1995 on the set of the Australian television show Correlli. Jackman previously admitted that it was love at first sight despite their 13-year age gap.

“She was the star and I had this major crush on her,” Hugh told Ellen DeGeneres in 2016. “Everyone did. The whole crew had a crush on her and I was so embarrassed by that.”

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Jackman told Town & Country magazine that he knew he wanted to marry Furness, but decided not to “ask her to marry me for six months,” adding, “Then after four months. I thought, that’s the most ridiculous rule!”

They said “I do” the following year in Melbourne. The couple started the process of building a family almost immediately, but after rounds of IVF and two miscarriages, they decided to adopt.

“We thought we’d have a kid or two biologically and then adopt,” the Wolverine star told The Herald Sun. “But when we decided we’d had enough of IVF, we went ahead with adoption.”

The couple now have two kids, son Oscar, 17, and daughter Ava, 12.

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Aside from complications with conceiving, the couple’s relationship has been tested in other ways, but they’ve managed to successfully make it through the “crazy ups and crazy downs” and are still going strong.

“I’m married to the greatest woman alive,” Hugh gushed about his wife on Lorraine. “She’s amazing. We’re best friends, and we share everything. She’s smart.”

During his promotional tour for his latest movie, The Greatest Showman, Jackman once again opened up about his marriage and spilled the secrets to their long-lasting union.

Woman Given Surprise Wedding Only Minutes After Being Proposed To

A woman from New York was surprised with her dream wedding only minutes after she was proposed to.

Following a trip to Disneyland, Nicole Cafagna noticed a string of lights draped across the backyard. When she asked her then-boyfriend Danny Rios about the new decorations, he just said “there was going to be much more to see.”

“I had no idea what was going on, I was trying to get our bags out of the car and he told me to leave them all,” Carfagna told PEOPLE. “He opened the door for me, took my hand and led me into the backyard.”

Carfagna entered the backyard and saw her entire family and friends standing in front of a tent. Originally believing she was stepping into a surprise birthday party, Carfagna quickly realized the festivities were for a marriage proposal when she saw her father dressed in a suit and her mother in tears. Then her favorite song, “Fix You,” by Coldplay came on.

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“I was shocked, it was the biggest surprise and the most shocked I have ever been in my life!” Carfagna said. “I started to well up and cry, and luckily my dad told me to take a breath, and take it all in. If he didn’t, I probably would have been sobbing the entire time.”

But that wasn’t the only surprise of the night. Following their engagement, Rios took his fiancée aside and told her he had another surprise up his sleeve.