But one of the most contentious debates of all is about what is the right kind of car seat to use – or whether to buy one at all.
Whatever side of the issue you stand on, a pair of emergency workers have shared important safety tips for parents that apply to every car seat.
The most surprising piece of advice comes courtesy of mother and paramedic Kaitlyn Lawson, and has nothing to do with the car seat itself.
In a post that has since gone viral, Lawson appealed to other parents to print a label for their child’s car seat.
“It takes two minutes of your time to write out your child’s name, date of birth, emergency contacts, any medical conditions, any medicine your child is on, and even your child’s doctor, then stick it to the child’s car seat,” she explained.
“This helps EMS a ton and can also help save your child’s life.”
Lawson explains that after an accident, parents aren’t always able to provide this important information to rescue workers.
By attaching it to your child’s car seat, you can guarantee they’ll get the treatment they need, and quickly.
But another mother and rescue worker has her own car seat tip for parents.
Most parents dread the day that they have to talk to their kids about sex. One UK couple took to the internet to hire a professional for the job they were too uncomfortable to do.
The couple is willing to pay almost $3,500 dollars for someone to come to their home, and talk to their two children about the birds and the bees.
The online ad said, “I’m not sure if this is the right place to ask for this kind of help, but here goes. My husband and I are looking to hire someone to give our 8-year-old daughter and 7-year-old son the ‘talk’.”
“Like most parents, we were hoping we would have more time before this became a problem; ideally, I’d avoid it altogether! But we’re at the point now where they aren’t satisfied with the answer we’re giving them.
“I don’t trust the school to do a proper job teaching either of our children about the complexities of puberty, intimacy and consent which is why we’re looking for someone to handle this for us.”
If you’re thinking this sounds like the easiest $3,500 ever, you might be wrong. They aren’t just looking for a sex talk, they have a long list of topics they want covered.
Here is the list they posted:
“• How sex is between two people who are in love (preferably married but we’re modern enough to know that’s not always possible)
• Consent (with a possible discussion of rape culture)
• Sex with both genders, from foreplay to penetration
• Periods (for our son too – we want him to be comfortable with this natural part of life for women)
It’s been an emotional couple of days for me and my family in the wake of the preventable tragedy that claimed 17 lives at a Florida School. Sure, we didn’t lose a loved one, but as a parent I can only imagine what the families who lost their children are going through.
Watching parents struggle through losing their child hits me and hurts me. When I allow myself to really listen to their pain and their experience, it physically and emotionally sickens me. I am sad, angry, terrified, and shocked, because it could’ve been my child’s school instead of Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School.
My daughter is the center of my universe, and to lose her, especially in such a violent manner, would shatter my world. But the sad reality it that this is a real possibility.
Unfortunately, I can no longer say “this won’t happen to me” and these days, I spend every waking minute worrying about what I would do without her.
For years, I’ve been driving my daughter to school, we hug goodbye, and we go about our day. I head to work without a worry in the world, because I knew that she was in safe hands.
Her father and I have had conversations with her about stranger danger, road safety, bullying, and how to handle certain situations that may arise while she’s at school, but we never thought there would come a day when we had to sit her down and talk about school shootings.
The thing is we can talk and protest about it all we want, but that’s not going to protect my daughter or bring back the one’s who were slain. Gun control aside, we’re failing to protect our kids while we sit and argue about what can be done, and it breaks my heart to know that right now my child could be unexpectedly taken away from me at any given time.
The image of Andrew Pollack talking about losing his daughter, Meadow, during the listening session held by President Donald Trump at the White House is burned in my mind, becausewith the way things have been going, that could’ve been me in his place. No school, child, teacher or parents is immune, and he reminded all of us of that.
How many more senseless deaths of innocent children will it take before our nation collectively decides that enough is enough?
Following the tragic events that unfolded at Florida’s Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School last week, claiming the lives of 17 students and teachers, the issue of public safety, mental illness, and of course, gun control has been brought back to the debate table.
We’re not even two full months into 2018 and there have already been 17 school shootings, according to gun control advocacy group Everytown for Gun Safety. The organization reports any time that a firearm is intentionally or accidentally discharged on a campus, even if there are no fatalities.
Since the latest mass shooting, the whole nation has been up in arms about the dire need for stricter gun laws, however, there is another issue that deserves to be in the forefront: why don’t we have stricter security measures in our schools?
On February 21, President Donald Trump held a “listening session” at the White House with students and parents to discuss mass school shootings and safety. While every individual had an important point to present, Andrew Pollack, the father of slain Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School student, Meadow, gave one of the most impactful statements that not only holds those with authority responsible, but everyone else in the country.
“It is not about gun laws. That is another fight, another battle,” Pollack said. “Let’s fix the schools and then you guys can battle it out whatever you want. But we need our children safe. Monday, tomorrow, whatever day it is, kids go to school. Do you think everyone’s kids are safe?”
It’s not to downplay the significant role weapons, like guns, play in our society, however as parents, whose roles include ensuring our children are safe at all times, it’s time we start taking action. Just talking about implementing stricter gun laws or blaming lawmakers isn’t going to fix a problem that’s been haunting the nation for decades.
When school shootings happen, the loss of innocent lives is felt by everyone, regardless of race, religious beliefs or political affiliations. So why can’t we put those differences aside and work together to make sure our kids will come back from school every day?
“It almost makes me want to go insane. It’s anger, fear, sadness, pain all exponentially greater than the words in a sentence or two can describe,” one parent said after reflecting on the the recent school shootings.
A father will do anything for their daughter, even if it means stepping outside their comfort zone. For Officer Cody Brown, his daughter is his top priority, and when the important moments happen in her life he makes sure that he is there for them.
Brown works for the Castle Rock Police Department, and while he was on patrol he realized he was late for an event he had already agreed to go to. His daughter, Tessa, was participating in a “Bring Dads To Dance” night at her ballet class, and he has promised he would be there. The problem was that he was still on duty.
How did he handle it? With the dedication that only a police officer could have.
Tessa was all ready at dance class, all dressed up in her tights and leotard, but she obviously needed her dad to be there. Luckily, he rushed in, fully uniformed, and made his way to the barre.
We all want to raise good kids. We try our best to teach them good values, but it’s not always an easy task. Personalities clash, and some kids just have a mind of their own. It’s hard to know whether or not your kids are listening and learning when you try to teach them things.
But according to psychologists at Harvard University, there are five secrets to raising a good kid, and if you want to make sure your kids turn into well-adjusted adults, you should take note! Even if you already have kids, see if your lessons make the list.
This sounds pretty simple, right? But it’s so important. Instead of plopping your child down in front of the television or computer, actually spend time with them. Reading, playing outside, or even just talking can leave a lasting impact on your kids. It will show them that it’s still important to make face-to-face connections with people, and they won’t feel like they’re being pushed to the side in favor of technology.
Think back to your own childhood, how many memories do you have with your parents? A lot, right? Make sure your kids have the same.
“Even though most parents and caretakers say that their children being caring is a top priority, often children aren’t hearing that message,” Harvard researchers said.
If you’re asking a teacher if your child’s behavior has changed or if their grades or okay, let your kid know that’s happening. Children need vocal affirmation that they are important to you and that someone is caring about their well-being. Feeding them, clothing them, and putting a roof over their heads are expected by your kids, but putting emphasis on other areas of their lives is an important way to tell them you care.
I remember my parents went to every single parent-teacher interview, even if it wasn’t needed. They genuinely cared about my academic life and wanted me to know that. Sure, at the time I may have found their questions “annoying,” but as an adult I now realize they were doing it because they care.
Parenting is the hardest job in the world. Children will test you in ways that you never thought possible, and no matter how old your kids get, it never gets any easier, or any less confusing. When your child is born with special needs, it doesn’t make it any harder, it just gets a lot more complicated, and the number of doctors appointments shoots through the roof. Having two children diagnosed on the autism spectrum, I can completely understand what it must have been like for Colin Farrell, raising a child with an extremely rare genetic disorder: complicated.
Farrell has a 14-year-old son named James. When James was only two years old, he was diagnosed with Angelman syndrome, which is a rare and complex genetic condition that primarily affects the body’s nervous system. It has several characteristic symptoms that include: problems with movement and balance, severe developmental delays, intellectual disability, and very severe speech impairment. The child will also show some physical characteristics like a small head, and pretty specific facial features.
When you put that all together, as a parent, your job does get a lot more complicated. On top of just learning how to be a parent, you have to learn how to be a very specific parent. And, if you are someone who lacked patience or empathy in your life before kids, you are about to get slapped in the face with both of those. That is what Colin Farrell has been dealing with as a parent for the last 14 years, and it can’t have been easy.
Has your mom ever told you it “kills her” that you don’t visit as much as she wants? Well, she could be right.
For me, visiting my mom is not a nuisance, she’s one of my best friends and the advice I get from her is second to none. But I also understand that some people find it hard to spend prolonged periods of time with their loved ones.
However, a new study indicates that even if you don’t love going to see your mom, it might be worth it to suck it up so she lives longer!
It’s already been documented that a relationship between grandparents and grandkids is healthier for everyone.
“We found that an emotionally close grandparent-adult grandchild relationship was associated with fewer symptoms of depression for both generations,” said Sara M. Moorman, an assistant professor in the Department of Sociology and the Institute on Aging at Boston College. “The greater emotional support grandparents and adult grandchildren received from one another, the better their psychological health.”
It also benefits the grandparents as well! The study found that grandparents who gave (and received) tangible support like rides to the store, help with chores, or money when things get tight, experienced fewer symptoms of depression over time.
“Studies have shown [loneliness is associated] with higher blood pressure, with nursing home admissions, with risky health behaviors like inactivity and smoking, and with dementia,” research from the New York Times states.
But what does this new study say about spending time with your mom?
If you believe the age old saying “opposites attract” you may want to re-think your decision.
Despite the expression, people are more likely to be attracted who individuals who look like themselves or their parents.
Scientists have already established several species including birds, mammals, and fish mate with animals that resemble their parents, which is otherwise known as sexual imprinting.
For example, if a baby goat is raised by a sheep, when the goat reaches sexual maturity, it will look for another sheep to mate with, as opposed to its own species.
According to Psychology Today, this may signify that “our incest taboos are social constructs instituted to prevent people from following their instincts.”
Researchers at the deCODE genetics company in Reykjavik, Iceland have found that marriages between third or fourth cousins is more optimal for reproduction purposes, as they are likely to have more children and grandchildren compared to unrelated couples. They suggested while romantic relationships between siblings and first-cousins may lead to inbreeding, third or fourth cousins have just enough genetic similarity where their offspring may be produced from the best gene pool.
This theory goes against the “Westermarck effect,” which argues people who grow up together won’t be attracted to each other when they reach sexual maturity.
Studies conducted by Finnish anthropologist Edvard Westermark are aligned to recent findings, which suggest living in close proximity to another person is the decisive factor for desensitization in terms of sexual attraction – opposed to degree of their resemblance.
However, Psychological Science reports we only perceive people to look similar to us once we deem them trustworthy.
An 11-year-old Girl Scout is being called a hero after she managed to save her own father’s life. Sylvie Mider will be honored with the National Lifesaving Award Medal of Honor from the Girl Scouts after her quick thinking helped make sure that her father would survive.
Mider was camping with her father when the incident occurred. They went fishing, hiking, and had spent their evening making s’mores. It was at 2:30 am when Mider woke up and noticed something was wrong.
Her dad was still awake, and he was moving around the camp site in an unusual way. “I said, ‘Hey, Dad, are you OK’ and he said he was fine,” Mider explained. Even though her father said he was doing alright, Mider didn’t believe him. She asked him what he was doing awake at that time of night but he couldn’t remember.
His disorientation and confusion made her realize something was wrong, and so she knew she needed to act fast…
No one can say that OB-GYN Hilary Conway doesn’t go the extra mile for her patients, especially after the incredible triple delivery she pulled off last month.
The mom from Washington gave birth to her second child last month, a baby girl named Verna, and was resting in her hospital room when she received a fateful text message from one of her patients.
Conway had bonded with one of the expecting mothers at her workplace, the Yakima Valley Farm Workers Clinic. Katie Moss was pregnant at the same time as Conway, and the doctor had even given Moss her own cell phone number to call in case of an emergency – which she says is “not something that I give out frequently.”
Moss texted Conway saying she had gone into labor with her twins a month before their due date, and the dedicated doctor didn’t hesitate to get out of her hospital bed and put on her scrubs.
The pair had another stroke of good luck, because Moss was in the delivery room right next door to Conway’s. The OB-GYN stopped to nurse her daughter, before leaving her with a nurse and giving Moss an ultrasound exam.
But the tricky delivery was a lot for the new mom to handle.
The holidays are an emotional time for everyone, because of the joy that comes from being around your loved ones, and the grief from remembering those who aren’t with us any longer.
For one family, this was an especially painful time of the year. Only six months before, Antonio Vargas Sr. lost his wife, leaving him and his son Antonio Jr. on their own.
This was going to be their first Christmas without her, but they weren’t alone. The two of them had other loved ones around them while they were opening presents in order to keep everyone happy and to bring out that feeling of togetherness.
But Antonio Sr. had a surprise in store for his son. He knew that the year had been hard for him, and that no amount of toys or presents could fill the void in his son’s heart for his mother.
This father went above and beyond to give his son a unique experience that only he would understand.
Does anyone else still get those yearly holiday cards from their relatives with the parents and children (and maybe pet) all nestled together looking happy and festive?
We all know that in reality they probably managed to snap a picture of the two seconds they weren’t fighting, but the sentiment is nice, and it’s a neat way to see how families grow throughout the years.
Mike and Laura Bergeron have taken this to a whole new level.
Their cards are hilarious, and it seems like they’ve been trying to outdo themselves for the past 14 years! What started as a funny joke has now become a tradition. Let’s take a look at the beginning of their journey and see how far they’ve come!
What a fantastic way to start. “Forty & Fighting It” in 2003!
What a way to update the in-laws!
It’s okay everyone, 2005 was a weird year all around.
Not everybody is close with their family, but you would imagine that if you were rich you could find it in your heart to leave them something nice anyways.
That’s not the case with these 15 stars, who each have their own reasons for ignoring their kids in their will.
1. David Cassidy
Fans of The Patridge Family were shocked to hear about this teen idol’s death last month, but the star’s will held even more surprises. While he was reportedly on good terms with all three of his kids, Cassidy’s daughter and Arrow actress Katie was left out of the inheritance.
Cassidy told People in 2009 that “Because I didn’t raise her, I didn’t have to parent her,” and he really meant it. Katie was raised by her mother, model Sherry Williams, and her step-father, Richard Benedon.
2. Gene Simmons
The Kiss front man has made a fortune selling records and licensing Kiss merchandise, but he’s made it very clear that his two children, Nick and Sophie, shouldn’t expect to get it when he dies.
“In terms of an inheritance and stuff, they’re gonna be taken care of, but they will never be rich off my money,” the rocker told CNBC. “Because every year they should be forced to get up out of bed, and go out and work and make their own way.”
3. Mickey Rooney
When this comedy legend died in 2014, it took two weeks for his family to arrange his funeral because of all their fighting. It seems that seven of Rooney’s eight children were left out of his will, along with his estranged wife Jane.
The only person who saw a dime from Rooney’s estate was his step-son and caretaker, Aber. But the movie star reportedly had just $18,000 to his name when he passed away.
4. Jackie Chan
The action movie star has a net worth of at least $130 million, but he’s been up front about why his son Jaycee shouldn’t expect to inherit his cash. Jaycee has publicly struggled with drug abuse, and even spent time in jail for marijuana possession.
“If he is capable, he can make his own money,” the actor told NewsAsia in 2011. “If he is not, then he will just be wasting my money.”
5. George Lucas
Movie fans will recognize Lucas as the man behind the massively popular Star Wars franchise, and he sold the series to Disney in 2012 for a whopping $4.5 billion.
But despite the huge payday, Lucas has committed to giving all his money away to charity. Specifically charities that support education for underprivileged kids. That’s good news for the world, but not so good for Lucas’s four children.
6. Ted Turner
The multi-billionaire is as famous for being the owner of cable networks like CNN and TBS as he is for being an environmentalist. Turner donated $1 billion to the U.N. in 1997 to start the U.N. Foundation.
Between that charity and his family’s Turner Foundation, the TV mogul guesses that “at the time of my death, virtually all my wealth will have gone to charity.”
But that doesn’t rule out a small nest egg for his five kids, either.
7. Warren Buffett
The man behind the Berkshire Hathaway conglomerate has a hand in dozens of businesses ranging from investment firms to brands like Fruit of the Loom and GEICO. Those have earned him an astounding $78 billion, but the charitable Buffett has pledged to give away 99% of his wealth.
“Fear motivated me, and it will motivate them,” he says about letting his kids fend for themselves. “I’m not an enthusiast for dynastic wealth, particularly when 6 billion others have much poorer hands than we do in life.”
And like Hatchimals last year, the toy has made big business for retailers, as parents are rushing to get this year’s “Cabbage Patch” toy before they’re all sold out.
But some parents are warning others to be on the lookout, after they were tricked into buying counterfeit Fingerlings. Even some reputable sites run by big stores aren’t safe from the phony monkeys, as third party vendors have been unloading their counterfeit toys to clueless shoppers.
One mother described receiving a package with misspelled labels on her doorstep, with fake Fingerlings inside. When she handed the toys to her kids, she said the “color was leeching off the product onto their hands.” While this parent got a full refund for her phony toys, you might not be so lucky.
That’s why everyone should learn how to tell apart real and fake Fingerlings, to avoid being scammed.
On a fateful day 22 years ago, 24-year-old Qian Fenziang gave birth to a baby girl.
What should have been a happy day for Qian and her husband, Xu Lida, was instead a disaster for the family. They lived in China, which until 2015 had a one-child policy in place, and the couple already had a three-year-old daughter. In fact, Qian had been forced to give birth in secret on a small houseboat, to avoid revealing her second daughter’s existence.
With no way to safely look after their child, the couple left her in a covered vegetable market, in the city of Suzhou. Qian pinned a handwritten note to the baby girl, giving her a name, Jingzhi, and a date of birth.
“We have been forced by poverty and affairs of the world to abandon her,” Qian wrote. “Oh, pity the hearts of fathers and mothers far and near! Thank you for saving our little daughter and taking her into your care.”
But it also included a special message from the mother, who still held on to hopes of seeing her daughter again:
“If the heavens have feelings, if we are brought together by fate, then let us meet again on the Broken Bridge in Hangzhou on the morning of the Qixi Festival in 10 or 20 years from now.”
The Qixi festival is China’s answer to Valentine’s Day, on the seventh day of the seventh month of their lunar calendar. The Broken Bridge is a famous landmark, because it was included in a Chinese romantic poem. It was the perfect time and place to plan for a reunion that must have seemed impossible at the time.
But against all odds, Qian’s wish came true, thanks to her note and stroke of good luck.
Parents know thatFrozenis a hit with kids worldwide, but many moms and dads are actually celebrating after a new short featuring characters from the movie has been axed.
Last week, audiences rushed to see the new Pixar film Coco, a magical, musical adventure inspired by Mexico’s “Day of the Dead” festivities. The animated family film beat huge superhero movies at the box office, and has raked in more than $100 million nationwide in less than two weeks.
And while families are falling in love with the flick, parents are sharing their frustration with the Frozen short film that runs before it.
Pixar movies traditionally start with a 10 minute short film that runs before the movie, usually something cheerful and fun to help young kids settle in to the movie-going experience. But the studio’s latest short film, Olaf’s Frozen Adventure, rubbed parents the wrong way, and they weren’t afraid to say so.
So what was so objectionable about the new Frozen short?