Hilary Duff Felt “Isolated” After Becoming A Mom

Any mom will tell you that after having your first child, your life will change forever. Once you have kids, of course, it’s hard to imagine anything else. But that first one makes you rethink everything you thought you knew.

Hilary Duff learned this lesson all too well seven years ago after she gave birth to her son, Luca, whom she shares with former NHL player and ex-husband Mike Comrie.

Duff has been in the public eye since she was a child, most notably as a Disney star in the show Lizzie McGuire. Since then, she’s been one of the more accomplished child stars, and her life has never been full of drama (or at least not that we’ve seen). Duff had Luca when she was only 24 years old, and she said that becoming a mom at a young age made her lost part of her identity.

“It was a little isolating in the beginning because I didn’t have any friends that had babies yet,” the Younger star said. ”But I had been working for such a long time that it felt like a natural step for me and I always knew I wanted to be a mom. I always knew that was going to be my No. 1 priority in life. So I felt ready on some fronts and a little scared on others, but really I only got scared once I was pregnant, thinking, like, ‘Oh this is actually really happening. What if this? What if that?’”

Despite feeling like she no longer knew who she was, Duff knew that being a mom was the most important job she could have.

“I did feel like after I had him, I lost a big chunk of my identity for like maybe the first year and a half, but I don’t think that was a negative thing,” she said. “At times, I was sad about it, but you know it’s full on. I don’t remember setting him down for the first three months of life. I was obsessively googling things and I just took it really seriously that I didn’t realize how all-encompassing it would be. I knew it was the most important, biggest job in the world but you know, it looks very different once you’re just in the household with the baby by yourself all the time. It was shocking and it was also the happiest, most beautiful experience, so those two things butting up against each other is quite a strange mix sometimes.”

Don’t get her wrong, though. Duff says becoming a mom was “the happiest, most beautiful experience” she’s had. It took a little while for her to find herself again, but when she did, the actress felt unstoppable.

“[Once] you do find yourself again, you have the biggest thing under your belt that nobody can take away from you and you’re so powerful and you’re so confident. … When it was happening, maybe I was a little sad about it and I didn’t feel like I had anyone to go through the experience with, but then I came out on the other side. I’m like, ‘I’m freaking super woman and I can do anything and I have confidence for days.’ There’s so much good that comes along with it.”

Duff is now also a mom to nine-month-old daughter Banks, whom she shares with fiancé Matthew Koma. This time around, she’s experiencing a different set of problems which she joked about on Instagram.

“Sitting here thinking…gotta keep working on this body that was Banks’ apartment. A while ago…,” she said on her Instagram Story. “Give me my abs back. Are they in there? Hellllllo come back. I was thinking if I told my 14-year-old self that I would hang out in sweatpants that cover my belly button I think I would have vomited on the spot and laughed in your face.”

Duff can’t be the only mom who has felt isolated after having their first child. She’s handled it with grace, though, and she’s a great mom to those little kids.

People Are Mom-Shaming Hilary Duff For Piercing Her Daughter’s Ears

There are very few things that get parents on the internet as riled up as piercing baby ears does. While some parents believe the act of piercing a baby’s earlobes is part of cultural tradition, others are convinced that it is a form of child abuse.

While debate over the issue quietened for a while, a photo posted by actress Hilary Duff has restarted the conversation recently.

The entertainer shared a black-and-white photo of herself and her daughter Banks on Instagram. Captioned, “Mama and 🍓, the sweet snap showed the eight-month-old’s ear with a tiny stud in it.

As soon as the photo was uploaded, people took to the comments to share their thoughts on baby Banks’ pierced ears. One fan said that they’ve “unfollowed” Duff because of her choice to pierce her daughter’s ears.

Another wrote, “I can’t believe someone who seemed so screwed on pierced her babies ears, causing unnecessary pain that isn’t for medical reasons done by a fully qualified medical professional is child abuse in my eyes.”

“I can’t fathom why you would you think it’s okay to have your daughter’s ears pierced,” one mom-shammer added. “Causing her a tremendous amount of pain and discomfort.”

Luckily, Duff has a strong fan base and they came to her defence.

Many pointed out that not only does Duff not need to seek other people’s approval when making parenting decisions, ear piercing is a tradition in many cultures. Others pointed out that both Banks and Duff look happy and that’s the only thing that matters.

This isn’t the first time that Duff has been subjected to mom-shaming. A few years ago, the mom-of-two received a ton of criticism after she posted a photo of herself kissing her son, Luca, on the lips.

“Kissing your child on the lips is not necessary,” wrote one Instagram user. “It may in time create a not healthy desire and it’s too close to what adults do.”

Duff eventually responded to the comments. She wrote, “For anyone commenting that a kiss on the lips with my four year old is ‘inappropriate’ go ahead and click a quick unfollow with your warped minds and judgment.”

In a 2018 interview, Duff recalled the mom-shaming comments she received over the kissing photo and revealed that she was also shamed for giving Luca, whose dad is retired hockey player Mike Comrie, piggybacks.

“People can be like, ‘Oh, you’re holding that child? He’s six.’ Yeah, I swing him over my head, when his legs are tired I hold him — it’s a little hard right now — but yeah, I give piggyback rides. People just have all these crazy judgments, and I think it’s best to not listen and laugh it off,” Duff told Allure.

She added, “Honestly, trying to put into perspective other people’s realities. The only thing that matters is you and your family and whatever choices you’re making, and how that choice feels for your family.”

Kudos to Duff for not letting the negative comments affect her or her family.

What are your thoughts on piercing babies’ ears?

Chrissy Teigan Mom-Shamed Over Daughter’s Nail Polish

Despite her cleaver and hilarious responses to previous mom-shaming comments, Chrissy Teigen is yet again at the center of another heated parenting debate.

What is the fiasco about this time? Nail polish on her daughter Luna’s toes.

The model, cookbook author and mom of two recently took to Twitter to let her followers in on a special moment between her and Luna.

“Doing her nails is my knitting. Kid toes kill me!” Teigen wrote in the tweet, accompanied by a video showing the toddler’s toes painted red.

Teigen’s innocent post was well received by most people, with some parents even sharing photos of their children’s pedicures. However, there were a few critics who called out the Lip Sync Battle co-host for exposing her three-year-old child to the dangerous chemicals in the polish.

“Applying poisonous chemicals directly onto a child’s body cannot be good, one user wrote in a now-deleted tweet. “Whatever poisons are in polish are absorbed through the nail and directly into their body.”

Teigen, who is never one to pass up an opportunity to dish out a witty response, replied with: “Well I actually had her drink it, so joke’s on you.”

This is just the second time in two weeks that Teigen’s parenting choices were questioned. After sharing a photo of Luna’s first visit to the dentist, a user commented that the three-year-old should’ve been to the dentist sooner.

“What age do they start over there? My daughter started seeing a dentist at a [year] old,” the user wrote.

“Was waiting for this. U guys never fail me,” Teigen, who is no stranger to unsolicited opinions, replied.

A few weeks earlier, after Teigen shared a video of Luna negotiating for candy, another user made a snarky comment regarding the state of the young girl’s hair.

“Finally someone brushed her hair,” read the comment.

Again, Teigen wasted no time in firing back.  She wrote: “All by herself! Maybe she can come do your makeup.”

Although both celebrity mothers and fathers get shamed for their choices, it seems like the moms receive the most criticism. Teigen can definitely handle her own, but her husband John Legend thinks she should be given a break. In an interview with Us Weekly, he explained that it is only fair that he get some of that criticism too.  

“On our first date after Luna was born, everyone critiqued [Teigen],” the Grammy-winning singer told the publication recently. “‘Why are you going out two weeks after your baby was born?’ But they didn’t critique me. I spoke out about it then. She spoke about it. I think hopefully people are learning that Chrissy and I are a partnership and if you’re going to parent shame us, do it to us as a partnership.”

Teigen appears unfazed by the criticism, and has continued to share content on her social media pages. Even though being on the receiving end of mom-shaming is never a pleasant experience, there’s solace in knowing that Teigen does not let people get away with this kind of behaviour.

What are your thoughts on this situation? Let us know in the comments!

The Top Baby Names Of 2019 So Far Have Been Revealed

Can you believe we are already four months into 2019? The year is zooming by faster than you can say Jack Robinson.

As we go further into the year, we’re beginning to see which trends will stick around for a while, and this includes baby names.

Nameberry, the largest baby name website in the world, has recently released its list of the most popular baby names of the year so far, and it is full of surprises. These days, it isn’t just celebrities that are opting to give their kids unusual names. Average parents are more daring than ever when it comes baby name choices.

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While the annual baby name list still includes classic monikers like Eleanor, Henry, Alice and Oscar, these names failed to nab the number one spot. In both the boys and girls categories, the names in the top spots seem to be inspired by pop culture, literature and Greek mythology.

For girls, Isla ranked at number one while Olivia and Posie followed in second and third, respectively. Aurora and Cora rounded out the top five.

As for boys, Milo came out on top, followed by Jasper and Asher. Atticus and Silas took the fourth and fifth positions, respectively.

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Here are the rest of the boy and girl names on the top 20

Girls

Ada

Maeve

Amara

Charlotte

Amelia

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Boys

Theodore

Jack

Finn

Aarav

Felix

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Since it is only May, we should expect this list to change as more babies make their debut this year. It wouldn’t come as a shock if the next reiteration of the list includes celebrity baby names like Birdie (Jessica Simpson and Eric Johnson’s daughter), Archie (Prince Harry and Meghan Markle’s son), and Psalm (Kim Kardashian and Kanye West’s son).

Both Birdie and Archie stem from shortened versions of Elizabeth and Archibald, respectively. However, it is not common to find a person named Psalm.

The name Kim and Kanye picked for their fourth child is obviously inspired by the Bible. Sources close to the couple have told media outlets that the celebrity couple chose the moniker, which means “song” or “instrumental music,” because it reflects their current spiritual state.

“Kanye has been going through a spiritual revival lately,” the anonymous insider explained. “Every name has a meaning that is personal between Kanye and Kim and the child. Psalm is a good reflection of where Kanye and Kim are spiritually.”

Psalm’s grandmother, Kris Jenner, also opened up about her youngest grandchild’s unique name. She revealed that the name goes beyond the Bible, adding that it is “just a wonderful way to celebrate how they [Kim and Kanye] feel. And he’s such a blessing, so it’s perfect. He’s just adorable.”

This isn’t the first time that Kim and Kanye have shocked us with an unusual baby name. The couple, who have been married for five years, named their first daughter North, while their second and third children are named Saint and Chicago.

The Kardashian-West children are not alone in having names that stand out. Their cousins also boast unique names. Kim’s sisters Khloe and Kylie named their daughters, True and Stormi.

What do you think of the most popular baby names of 2019 so far?

Mom’s Viral Ear Infection Home Remedy Causes Some Controversy

I remember growing up I would have some pretty nasty ear infections. They were the cause of a lot of tears and a lot of discomfort as a child, but the only remedy was the medicine doctors prescribed. We tried a lot of home remedies but they never really did the trick.

One mom in Canada, Echo Featherstone, posted remedy she uses on her son when he wakes up with ear infection pain. At first glance, it seems pretty clever!

What I’m about to share with you, is a coveted family secret given to my mom from aunt Mer. Because as a child/ teen and now adult.. with ears prone to infections and broken eardrums.. I use this all the time.

Your child ever wake up screaming in pain of an ear infection? Because it takes 30 minutes for pain meds to kick in, this is the handiest trick you will ever learn.

1. Take a face cloth and heat it up in water as hot as your hands can stand, and wring the water out..

2. Place the hot wet face cloth in a mug.

3. Place mug in the microwave for 20 seconds until the cup is warm and cloth is burning hot..

4. Place open end of mug on your child’s head, around the ear- being careful the hot cloth does not touch your child’s ear. The pressure from the mug, will help relieve the pressure built up in the ear- VOILA- back to sleep and calmed /not crying.. and then the pain meds will kick in.

😍 you are welcome.

-echo

However, some people are questioning the authenticity of the remedy, and even the safety of it.

“Warm and Heat are the WORST things you could put on or around the Ear, I WOULDN’T recommend this, I know from Years of bad Ear Infections, and I too used to do this and put warm/hot cloth or heating pads on/around my ear,” Melissa M. Jack wrote. “But Now after years of that the Ear Specialist says thou it may have felt good at the time, it’s done more Damage then good, & Now I’ve also Lost all Hearing in my Left Ear. So Parents/Care Takers PLEASE DO NOT put/place Warm/hearing things around the Ear when it’s Infected, As it’s the WORST thing you can do and the Long term effects end up being worse then the actual ear infection.”

“Yeah..I tried this and burst a hole in my ear drum,” Sue Vandevoir Rankin cautioned. “DO NOT DO THIS! My ear dr. about died when I told him what I had done.”

“DON’T EVER do this!!!” Michelle Oliveira Casqueira warned. “I was hospitalized for over a week on IV because my parents did this and what it actually does is loosens wax and infection and it goes deeper into the ear therefore harder to treat!! My face blew up like a balloon and if I hadn’t gone to the ENT when I did I could have lost my hearing in that ear because my ear canal almost closed. Don’t always believe what you see!!”

Featherstone is sticking by her claim though, saying her son’s doctor said it was okay.

“My son’s head and neck surgeon (for his ears and throat) said this was an incredible idea,” she said. “he was impressed and debunked the myth of bacteria growing. although it does nothing for the infection, it will help it feel much better. 🖤 and after that! I decided to post!”

Now personally, I’m a bit of a cynic so I wouldn’t try this remedy knowing it ruptured the ear drums of some people, but I guess everyone’s body reacts differently. Featherstone’s post has been shared over 350,000 times, so clearly there are people who believe it!

What do you think of this “hack”?

Mom Urges Caution After Daughter Dies From Using Toothpaste

Think about your daily routine: if you’ve got good hygiene, you’re brushing your teeth at least twice a day. But have you ever actually looked at the ingredients in your toothpaste? I know I haven’t. But now that I’ve heard this story, I just might start.

Monique Altamirano shared her concerns after her 11-year-old daughter, Denise, died after using a new toothpaste recommended by her dentist to help strengthen her enamel. The problem, however, is that Denise was severely allergic to dairy products, and no one thought to look at the ingredients on her toothpaste.

Monique used to read all the labels on toothpaste when Denise was younger, but she never saw any that contained dairy, so she didn’t continue to do so as years went on. Had she read the label on this MI Paste One, Monique would have seen that it contained Recaldent, which is derived from milk protein.

“I did not think to look at the product ingredients,” Monique told Allergic Living. “Contrary to what everyone’s telling me, I feel like I failed her!”

When Denise went to use the toothpaste, Monique said her daughter was “so excited to use her ‘special toothpaste.'” Within seconds of using it, Denise knew something was wrong. She couldn’t breathe and her lips started to turn blue.

“She said, ‘I think I’m having an allergic reaction to the toothpaste,’ and her lips were already blue,” says Monique. “I picked her up and put her on my bed. I ran to the living room, told my daughter – ‘Call 911!’ – and I grabbed the EpiPen. She was saying, ‘Mommy, I can’t breathe.’ I was saying, ‘I love you, yes, you can.”

Monique administered her daughter’s EpiPen, but it was no use. She also began administering CPR, but the reaction was too severe by that point.

“The toothpaste was all over her teeth and gums and it cut off her oxygen,” Monique said.

Sadly, Denise died two days later in hospital.

Monique still feels responsible for her daughter’s death, but she knows there’s nothing that will bring her back. That being said, the family intends to use Denise’s legacy for good.

“We can’t bring Denise back but we can help others in her name,” Monique said. “We are so grateful to people who take allergies seriously. Denise wanted to change the world, but it’s heartbreaking how she’s doing it.”

The grieving mother had a strong message for parents of children with allergies.

“Read everything. Don’t get comfortable, just because you’ve been managing for several years,” she implores parents. “You can’t get comfortable or be embarrassed or afraid to ask and ensure that ingredients are OK. Be that advocate for your child.”

None of my kids ever had allergies, and I’m so grateful. I can’t imagine the stress it adds to parenting, and I really can’t comprehend how awful this mom must feel. My prayers are with the whole family.

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