You’ve got a job interview and they ask you about your strengths and weaknesses. So which one does perfectionism fall under? To your dismay, it’s usually the latter.
But why is that? Perfectionism means that you complete your task impeccably without any sign of error. The only problem is that you never seem to be able to reach that goal of perfection.
Take a look at these five signs on how being a perfectionist is affecting your mental and physical well-being.
You just can’t seem to let things go. For example, you’ll be lying on your bed, ready to go to sleep, when you remember that new ingredient you added to the pasta dinner that everyone complained about yesterday. You don’t recall all the things you did right that day or all the amazing previous dinners you’ve made, you only fixate on that one thing you did wrong for hours and hours until your brain decides to slip into unconsciousness without your effort.
Fixating will only make things worse, giving you the feeling that you’re going crazy, and it usually exacerbates the next thing on the list.
It’ll never be finished to your standards, so what’s the point? You’ll be working on a project but nothing seems to be coming together the way you envisioned it’d be. Also, you won’t stop until you reach that desired outcome. Sometimes you’ll purposely scrap the project you’re working on so you don’t have to deal with the flood of doubt that’ll come after.
Procrastination is the byproduct of the next sign of perfectionism on this list.
The reason why you can’t get anything done is because you need someone to tell you it’s good enough. Seeking constant approval can be tiring and frustrating, but its one of the remedies to put your thoughts of doubt at ease.
You must remind yourself that everyone has a different idea of “perfection.” So even if you think you’ve come close enough to it, it may not be what someone else envisioned. And that’s okay, trust me. It’s a world full of different ideas that makes life more interesting.
It’s not only you who needs to sculpt perfection, you require others to adhere to your ‘perfect’ standards as well. The only reason you feel that way is because you want the job to be done right. Fair enough, but, as mentioned before, everyone has a different idea of perfection.
This constant battle of demanding people to be on the same page as you will only frustrate you further and make you feel like the world is against you.
This leads us to the next sign …