Anyone who tells you that life is a smooth ride is not speaking the truth. Even if we’re content with the way our life is going, there will always be those times when we find ourselves stuck between a rock and a hard place.
Whether it’s losing a loved one or being injured in an accident, there are plenty of things that occur throughout our time on this earth that are beyond our control. But the truth of the matter is that life is unpredictable, change is inevitable, and sometimes we’re not going to like the outcome.
Many of us feel unprepared when life throws these curve balls at us, but don’t despair because there are many ways to get through these major challenges. Take it from someone who recently got out of a bad relationship.
For years, I was afraid that if I left my partner, I would never share the same bond with another person. I wanted to so badly make it work and it took some time, a lot of tears, sleepless nights, before I realized that I did try hard enough, but it just wasn’t a healthy situation to be in anymore.
I finally came across some tactics from Steven Skoczen, author of “Two-Year Life Plan Masterclass,” and that helped me better asses my situation and finally break free. If you find yourself stuck in a terrible place like I once was, you too could benefit from these tips.
Sure, it’s not easy to accept that you’re not where you’d like to be, but nothing can be done to fix it until you’re honest with yourself about it. If you’re unsure why you feel miserable about the way your life is unfolding at the moment, try putting pen to paper to see if you can figure it out.
Take some time out of your day to write out all the things that have been bothering you as of late, nothing is too big or too small. Is it your job? Family? Relationship? Finances? Your neighbor’s dog that barks incessantly?
Spend at least 10 minutes making the list, then when you’re done, read it over and circle the ones that you think are the biggest causes of your problems. Once you’ve narrowed it down to a couple of main ones, then it’s time to do something about it.
Now that you’ve figured out what could be the root of your problems, it’s time to dig a little deeper and describe what it is about your situation that you don’t like. Pretend like you’re talking to your best friend and be specific, make it as clear as possible and do not hold back.
Your description should clearly explain how you feel about the situation, what you have been doing to try and remedy it, who and what else are involved and whether or not they’re contributing to the problem, how much time do you spend thinking about it, as well as the ways in which it has been affecting your day to day life.
Once you’ve figured out the bad, it’s time to start looking for a better situation.